I found C*ndoms in My Boyfriend’s Jacket but we Don’t Use Them
A 28-year-old woman started to worry after finding c*ndoms in her 32-year-old boyfriend’s bathroom items. They had been together since 2014 and had stopped using them about a month after they started dating.
At first, she didn’t think it was a big deal. The c*ndoms looked old, so she thought they might have been there before their relationship began.
But something changed during her boyfriend’s one-day business trip. Three c*ndoms disappeared from the box.
When he came home, those three were back. Then she checked the jacket he had worn on the trip and found three SKYN c*ndoms in a pocket.
These appeared to be newer and may have been bought after they became a couple. That left her with serious questions about trust, honesty, and communication in their relationship.
She shared the strange discovery on Reddit, wondering if there could be an innocent explanation. Unfortunately, ten days later, she found out what was really happening.
The c*ndoms weren’t the first thing that had made her uncomfortable.
Months earlier, she had found deleted Snapchat messages on her boyfriend’s phone. He gave her an explanation, but something still felt off.
The same thing happened with the c*ndoms.
When she finally asked why he had taken c*ndoms on his business trip, he looked panicked. His story then kept changing.
First, he acted like he didn’t know what c*ndoms she meant. Then he said he had forgotten about them. He also claimed they had been there for a long time, that he planned to put them back, and that they were for his own use.
None of the answers gave her much confidence.
That matters because trust and honesty are basic parts of a healthy relationship. Planned Parenthood lists communication, honesty, trust, and respect among the signs of a healthy relationship.
His Phone Revealed the Truth
The next night, she checked his phone.
There were messages to several women about hooking up.
Even after she found them, her boyfriend continued changing his story. He first denied sending any messages. Then he admitted to one before changing his explanation again.
At that point, she had enough.
The c*ndoms alone hadn’t proved infidelity. But the disappearing c*ndoms, deleted messages, changing explanations, and messages to other women painted a much clearer picture.
There was also a s*xual health concern. The CDC explains that c*ndoms can lower the risk of s*xually transmitted infections, while many other birth control methods don’t protect against STIs.
Her post never confirmed whether her boyfriend actually met or had s*x with any of the women, so that part remains unknown.
What she did know was enough for her.
She ended the relationship and told him he would have to move out. The small clue she had tried hard to explain away had eventually led her to the truth.
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Finding the c*ndoms didn’t prove anything by itself, but the other warning signs quickly added up. His changing stories, deleted messages, and conversations with other women finally gave her the answer she had been looking for.
Sadly, the trust was already gone. She ended the relationship and made it clear she wasn’t changing her mind.
The story is a reminder that trust and honest communication matter in any healthy relationship. Sometimes one strange detail means nothing. But when the explanations keep changing, it may be worth paying attention.
